Marriage is easy for you, Jennifer, you might be thinking. You have this perfect husband, this stud pilot guy who treats you right. You gush about him constantly and y'all are so in love. Everything is so perfect and easy for you.
And I would respond: "Is that so?"
I never want to dishonor my husband, and I don't want you to dishonor yours, so I would like us to all talk in generalities about our men. No man but Jesus Christ has ever been perfect and so our husbands cannot be perfect. That means, surprise, mine isn't perfect.
I really do not want to drag each other through the details of that because the Bible says to "pour your heart out before the Lord." I've decided that if I changed the prepositional object in that sentence to anyone but the Lord, i.e., my chick friends such as you, I would be changing and therefore defying God's word. It has really grieved me to hear the way women casually criticize their husbands in public: perfect strangers standing in line at the post office, gab to anyone who will listen about their husband's mistakes, exposing their husband's weaknesses and failures.
I know there can be a great deal of pain in marriage. Different ladies have varying degrees of pain and heartache to endure in their marriages, at different times. I don't have all the answers of course, but I can tell you one thing I have learned, and that is this. We can decide to be committed to a loving marriage, no matter what a husband does or says. We don't get to wait until he's perfect before we will bestow all the things a loving wife would bestow. We will be waiting, frosty and bitter, the rest of our lives. Don't hold back, just love on him right now. Don't waste another moment of another day.
And I would respond: "Is that so?"
I never want to dishonor my husband, and I don't want you to dishonor yours, so I would like us to all talk in generalities about our men. No man but Jesus Christ has ever been perfect and so our husbands cannot be perfect. That means, surprise, mine isn't perfect.
I really do not want to drag each other through the details of that because the Bible says to "pour your heart out before the Lord." I've decided that if I changed the prepositional object in that sentence to anyone but the Lord, i.e., my chick friends such as you, I would be changing and therefore defying God's word. It has really grieved me to hear the way women casually criticize their husbands in public: perfect strangers standing in line at the post office, gab to anyone who will listen about their husband's mistakes, exposing their husband's weaknesses and failures.
I know there can be a great deal of pain in marriage. Different ladies have varying degrees of pain and heartache to endure in their marriages, at different times. I don't have all the answers of course, but I can tell you one thing I have learned, and that is this. We can decide to be committed to a loving marriage, no matter what a husband does or says. We don't get to wait until he's perfect before we will bestow all the things a loving wife would bestow. We will be waiting, frosty and bitter, the rest of our lives. Don't hold back, just love on him right now. Don't waste another moment of another day.
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