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Military Wives

I am so proud of you, and so grateful to you. You are the support, love and strength behind our nation's military.

Everything you are doing every day, is making it possible for America's military to focus on what it is doing every day. You are greatly appreciated for your sacrifice.

If your husband gave his life for this country, every American is so in awe of you that we barely know what to say. Look to the Lord every day and be radiant.

Please click below to share your experience and wisdom with other military wives. If you know any senior citizens who would answer these questions also, those comments would be priceless
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Thankful for You at Thanksgiving

11/24/2013

 
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Two Thanksgivings ago, when my husband was deployed to Afghanistan, my children and I were supposed to drive six hours to be with family. But some of the family had bronchitis, and some of them had strep throat. I prayed and decided catching all of that would make the deployment even harder. And so we stayed home. Some friends invited us to their house and I will always appreciate that gesture.

So many things are hard about Thanksgiving without our husband. He does stuff. The guy stuff. You just feel weird and can't wait for the day to be over.

I tried to focus on the actual meaning of the holiday, and realized that I wasn't being thankful at all. I found the original words that George Washington wrote when he first established Thanksgiving as a national holiday. I couldn't find anything in there at all about pilgrims or turkeys or even family. Everything George Washington wrote was all about being thankful to the Lord.

During the holidays especially, when I am really missing my husband, and nothing else will do, it helps me to turn to the Lord. The moments that I wish I could talk to my husband or hug him, I talk to the Lord instead. When I get those pangs of sadness or loneliness, I sit down and read my Bible. Run to your heavenly Father's arms the way you wish your husband could hold you in his.

The Psalms are my favorite thing to read when my husband is away. You realize when you read the Psalms that the Lord truly does understand how you feel. There's a lot in there about battles and triumphing over those. King David was really pouring his heart out when he wrote those Psalms. We don't have to read the Bible in order, ladies. No one's going to tell on you to your 3rd grade teacher if you skip some parts. Reading the Bible is just spending time with Him. Open up to the Psalms and you will have a rush of love pour over you that says you are not alone after all.

Thank you so much for giving up your husband for all of us this Thanksgiving. I'm so proud of you and your service to our country. It does matter what you are doing every day. If every single wife in the military gave up right now, the stress of that would get to every service member right now, and America's military would completely collapse. Today. Just like that. You are holding so much together, not just your own family in his absence. You are the glue holding our nation's defense department together. Everyone in our nation is very indebted to you and I thank you.

So hold your head high this Thanksgiving. Sometimes it feels like it will never end but he's coming home one day, and you are home to him. You are his everything.

If your husband gave his life for his country, you can know that while he was with us, you were his special everything. And you will see him again after this life, which the Bible tells us is just a twinkling of an eye. I can't begin to imagine the depth of the pain and strength that you have. Everyone in this country is so in awe of you that we barely know what to say. I know you miss him. Thank you for making the ultimate sacrifice.

Dear Military Wife

11/8/2013

 
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Have you ever been gabbing with one of your girlfriends and then a topic comes up that is so piercing to your heart that you don't know how to talk about it? That's how I've been feeling about you, the military wife.

I'm so proud of you, and so grateful to you. My husband is Air Force, which he calls the country club of the military, so we are not sacrificing and working nearly as much as many of you. He has deployed overseas for a few months at a time throughout our marriage. It's tough. We just want our daddy.    

Mindset is your first weapon in the battle of the wifely deployment department. You, dear military wife, are fighting a battle while your husband fights his. If your husband is like mine, he is highly trained for his job. It blows me away how highly trained our military personnel are. My husband is forever getting qualified and re-qualified for low-level flying or night vision goggles. I mean these guys are ready for war.

Are we?         

Have we wives trained ourselves and prepared ourselves for the spiritual, emotional battle of holding down the fort while our men are off at war? I would say in the past I have not. I simply react, and not very well. We wives have to take charge, be deliberate about the deployments, and take seriously the Bible's advice to put on the full armor of God (from Ephesians). My husband has often said that when he is deployed at war, his wife has the harder job staying behind.

You are among the elite group of women like those in the Bible who stayed home while their men repeatedly went off to war. Feel honored that you share in this strength of character and sacrifice. We are a different breed. The deployments make you strong. Open almost any page in the Old Testament and realize that someone, some sweet little wife was staying home without her man while all those battles were going on. And those ladies did not have e-mail. Or even snail mail. Much less a telephone. They didn't even know if their husbands were all right.

I believe our military should call those dreadful 15-minute "morale calls" something entirely different. The Department of Defense has not asked for my input on this issue, strangely enough, but if they ever do, I have several suggestions such as "lack of morale calls" or "stop toying with my emotions" calls. Sometimes the morale call comes right when your toddler begins to have a hissy fit and your other children begin asking you pressing math questions. After 15 minutes of talking to your husband, the phone cuts off. Now I don't know about y'all, but at the 15 minute mark, I'm just getting warmed up. That's just enough time for bullet points. We haven't even scratched the surface of the complex parenting trials and emotional peril that have gone down over the last 24 hours. The last time my husband was deployed to Afghanistan, we were very grateful that the internet signal was strong enough to be able to Skype for the first time over the computer. In the past, the signal was never strong enough. It made a huge difference to be able to see him face to face and talk. It really brightened his day too, to see me. He's the one roughing it while I'm at at home where it is safe and comfortable. I remember when we first met 20 years ago and he was deployed, there was no e-mail yet. We'd write each other letters and I'd get nothing for two weeks and then eight letters in the mailbox from him on the same day. Once he sent me a fax at my job. So we can be thankful for technology.

Wives, be grateful. Purpose every day to have a grateful heart. God's word tells us not to compare ourselves to other people, or else we will be puffed up or frustrated. Just be grateful for your man, and for your family. And yes be grateful that you got to hear his voice that day for those precious minutes. This does not come naturally. It has to be the cry of your heart as you rise each morning, "Lord, give me a grateful heart." We've tried self-pity, so what do we have to lose with trying gratitude? I dare you, and see how it goes. Watch it spill over into your children's hearts. Those little eyes are watching you when you least expect it. Read your Bible each day and talk to the Lord about whatever is on your heart. Gratitude during life's greatest trials could be one of the most important lessons you ever teach your children, and yourself.


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    Jennifer lives in Georgia with her C-130 pilot husband, who is Air National Guard, along with their five homeschooled children.

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